So, since I want Grayson to live her life to the fullest, I try and let her experience as many things as I can remember (which we all know how my brain works). I wanted Grayson to be a part of Writing Wednesday, so this is the quote she pulled out of our LFTG jar –
“Kindness – one of the greatest gifts you can bestow upon another. If someone is in need, lend them a helping hand.”
And here’s the definition of kindness – the quality of being friendly, considerate, and generous. Well, I’d like to think I am friendly. I have been told many times I am “overly friendly” which I respond, “is there such a thing?” I do think I am considerate. Considerate so much that it in return hurts me a lot of the time. Generous . . . hmm, I can be, but it depends on what I’m liberally giving or sharing. Of course, wouldn’t we all like to think we are kind though? But have you stopped to ask yourself if you really are kind? I am only thinking about it now as I write because I was prompted to do so. And as you read above those are my short answers. Let’s break it down . . .
I could definitely be friendly to way more people. You know a simple smile or “Hey” to literally EVERY SINGLE PERSON (handicap or not, y’all! Homeless or not, y’all! Everyone!) could change someone’s mood. Your curling of the lips upward could seriously make a person go from feeling angry or hopeless to thinking “Yeah, it’s gonna be okay”. Gosh, can you imagine? I am going to challenge myself with that! Now being considerate – well, we are just going to pass on that one because I am having to “retrain” myself to take care of me and not everyone else first. I am currently searching for balance between the two. Thanks to yoga! Sorry, just had to throw it in there ;~} But generous I could do a lot better! I tend to be stingy with my time. At this point in my life I am only interested in real, honest, and simple. Those are the people I want to spend time with – basically, nothing more, nothing less. And there are plenty of other ways to be generous. That is just one of my examples. Generosity is going to be a garden for me because I need to GROW in this area of my life. So, for today here is the good . . . I have a challenge to smile and/or say “Hey” to EVERYONE. I can continue to learn how to love and take care of myself. Last but not least I will search myself and find ways to be generous. If you have any ideas, please send them to me. I love my Look for the good . . . readers! Much Peace and Love Y’all! Namaste
Courageous. Giving. Strong. I mean yeah, she is a runner and works out but that is NOT what I mean when I use this word to describe one of my best friends. Try these definitions – of great moral courage; powerful in means of prevailing; decisively unyielding. Now to break those down . . .
She has been tested on numerous occasions on how she should handle her life with a blended family but like I said – she is decisively unyielding when it comes to what is best and benefits her family as a whole. It isn’t a competition to win but a journey that continues and she always prevails. (Whether she knows it or not) She will not waver on what is best for her children. She is courageous. It isn’t always easy to be the mother to children who are not biologically yours, but Lisa holds her head high and presses on making sure her family is always taken care of. And then there is giving. Most importantly, she gives with her heart. She also gives with her time making sure all three of her children know she is present and there for them at all times, as well as for her husband. She gives in so many other ways not just to her own family but to me as a friend, even to strangers. She is the founder of www.wearefamilies.org Their mission is – to progress society’s awareness to the value of nonbiological parents in a blended family through improved rights and increased responsibilities, participation and empowerment, with the understanding that mindfully and intentionally uniting families in this way will strengthen the marriage, and thereby the children.
My list of behind the scenes details of what she has endured, let go of, and fought for would blow your mind but for today here is the good . . . I am BLESSED to call her my friend, my sister and to have her be part of my inner circle – my Girl Gang. I love you, Lisa! Much Peace and Love Y’all! I hope you enjoy the rest of your weekend.
Pardon me for the interruption of the “Girl Gang” posts – the rest are coming – BUT it has been awhile since I have done a Positive Purposeful Post. I need one! I am so busy being chased WHILE ON MY HAMSTER WHEEL that quite honestly, I haven’t had the time but more importantly the brain cells left to hardly write at all! I love writing and miss it. It’s just this roller coaster I have been on doesn’t seem to have a STOP button. (Insert mind pic of me getting thrown from the ride into a lava filled, alligator infested swamp)
For those of you who may be new to my blog or may just have missed the meaning behind my “Positive Purposeful Post”(s) here is the explanation – The founding belief of this company is to bring you inspiring positivity one breath at a time. All our products reflect this very idea. For example, our LFTG (Look For The Good) jars are filled with inspirational sayings/quotes. Each saying/quote has a crack ‘n peel backing so if you want to you can stick it on something for a positive reminder or simply throw it back in for a random draw another day. Head on over to our SHOP and purchase your very own today or bless someone else with one! WE ONLY HAVE A FEW LEFT! So, having said that, periodically I will be doing my own random draw out of my personal LFTG jar and will be posting it on here with a story that emulates that message. These will be named “Positive Purposeful Post”. Time for another one below –
“Forget all the reasons why it won’t work and believe in the one reason why it will.”
Again – perfect timing! So, as you readers know our life, our “situation” (which it is so annoyingly referred to on a regular basis – even by me) is difficult. Challenging. Demanding. Heavy. Painful. Emotional. Toilsome. And the list goes on . . . You wouldn’t believe all the negative words I could use to describe my journey on having a child with special needs. But who needs all the negative? Where is the positive? That is the whole reason why I began this blog. I not only wanted to help others “Look for the good . . . .” but I needed it too! I still do, probably now more than ever. But just like the quote says “ . . . believe in the one reason why it will” is how I survive. I have to constantly look for the one good thing. Just one. No matter how small. This particular saying is screaming at me so loudly today because of another big question we are being faced with currently. WHERE ARE WE GOING TO LIVE? I will stop there for today only since no one wants to read a blogpost soooooo long. If you personally know me and are freaking out about this question – yes, you will have to wait for the next post too. So, for today here is the good . . . . I had time and the heart to write today. Writing is one of the few things that really makes me happy. I am thankful. Remember . . . Forget all the reasons why it won’t work and believe in the one reason why it will. Much Peace and Love Y’all!
Kind, thoughtful and compassionate! She even gets an extra “r” in her name because she deserves it. We met when our youngest children were in kindergarten – many years ago – even though neither her nor I have actually gotten older (wink, wink). We never hung out or ran in the same circle but every time I saw her, at all the countless school activities, we would greet each other and even hug. I was drawn to her for some reason, not just because she is beautiful on the outside, but my soul felt we shared something. The Lord knew what He was doing way back then. But doesn’t He always know??? Fast forward through time and land several years ago. I can’t quite remember how it happened, due to the fact that we’ve always had a connection, but she invited me on a beach trip. Just her and I. Girl time. I had been very sick with an undiagnosed autoimmune disorder, so I wasn’t feeling my fun and silly self. This lent itself to us spending hours talking. For whatever reason we both opened up about our past and our present lives – the ups and downs. This is when I discovered why I was always captivated by her. We had both experienced and lived through some real nightmares. I won’t divulge those here. I will leave them where they are – in the past. For today, here is the good . . . I am BLESSED to call her my friend and am honored to know her. She is one of the most humble and truly genuine people I know. She isn’t afraid to fight for what she believes in and fight for others is what she does. She is co-founder of the Homeless Period Project. Go look it up! You’ll be inspired. Much Peace and Love Y’all!
“When it rains, look for rainbows. When it’s dark, look for stars.”
But what if you’re in a dank, tenebrous cave? How can you even see rainbows or stars? It isn’t possible. What if all you see is darkness? What do you do?
You wait. I know most of us don’t like that word. Especially if the wait seems endless. I feel like I am in a war of sorts. It is the never-ending war with numerous battles to be fought on what seems to be a daily basis. I feel like bombs are being dropped on me and they don’t just explode and it’s over. The impact has a domino effect. It’s like skipping a rock on top of water and watching the ripples go on and on – that is until another rock is thrown. Then I start all over with the chaos.
What are we supposed to do while we are waiting? Well, for one, I pray. I am trying to find my way back closer to The Lord now. Sometimes things are beyond stressful in my life and I can’t see Him. I can’t hear Him. Sometimes it feels like He is nowhere to be found. I know deep down that isn’t true but it’s how I feel.
So, I had a little convo with The Lord the other day. No, seriously, y’all, I did. I told Him I needed some good . . . Of course, in all honesty I think He must be somewhat amused with my ridiculousness – me thinking I can tell Him what to do. But guess what . . .
He really did answer my prayer. For today, here is the good . . . I heard back from Barnes & Noble (of all places – Barnes & Freakin’ Noble! They are huge!) that they are going to have a book signing event for me. What? What? I am so blessed, and this couldn’t have come at a better time. I wanted this to happen weeks and weeks ago, but it never did. Now I sit and think “Yes, Lord, it’s all in YOUR timing, not mine”. This works out better because of the upcoming holiday season and I have more time now to prepare. I am beyond excited to announce Barnes & Noble book signing event for my very first book, My Summer with Jimmy & Nan Dee! Details to come in the next few days. All I can say is don’t give up. Maybe it takes me telling you that or someone else. My amazing neighbor/friend/mother figure, Nancy, told me that very thing. She said just when you feel like you can’t take anymore then something wonderful happens. And trust me – it does! All glory be to God – for real! Keep putting one foot in front of the other. Have a fabulous weekend! Much Peace and Love Y’all!
Good afternoon my wonderful Look for the good . . . family and friends! Many thanks to all of you for checking in whenever your time allows. I am doing my best to pass on even just a sliver of positivity as much as I can. I was going for daily on Instagram/Facebook but as my life would have it . . . I get interrupted or my ADHD yells “Jane, come here!” from another room. I take off in a hurry to see what the panic is all about and by the time I get there I have already forgotten who called me or I got distracted and stopped somewhere else along the way. #daysinthelifeofJane
Also, just in the last few days there have been some major changes at The Crazy Harts Club. However, those details will come in later blog posts as my little heart allows. For today, here is the good . . . no matter how much darkness is surrounding you, always look for the light. Even if it is a tiny, pinhole bit of light, search for it. It’s there you just have to look for it. If you are blind and someone is reading this to you then listen for the light. You might ask – how in the world can I listen for something you are to see? The light doesn’t always have to be seen. It can be felt in an uplifting presence. It can be heard in a loved one’s voice or simply a bird singing. The light can come in something as big as a gift or as small, yet powerful, as a hug.
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