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How do you love yourself?

“If you don’t love yourself, you’ll always be chasing people who don’t love you either.” Mandy Hale

As you know I’m on quite the journey. A most basic definition of journey is – passage or progress from one stage to another. I’m sure as hell passing through and as y’all know I love to say I am putting one foot in front of the other. Sometimes, especially lately, I feel like it’s’ rather slow though. Kinda like a slug on a hot, summer day that is melted to the concrete. Eww gross! That’s a visual! The second part of that definition mentions progress. I have to ask myself . . . Am I progressing? Or am I going backwards and into some dark places? Of course, I don’t hide it and yes, I acknowledge it – I’m in a very vulnerable place. Difficult to admit but an even harder place to be in. I feel like there are numerous question marks hovering above my head that everyone can see as I walk around. So many “what if(s)” make it even more difficult to live in the moment but I still try.

So, for today here is the good . . . along with a question for all my readers Worldwide . . . I am strong. You are strong. We are stronger than we think. Trust me on that one and it’s okay for someone to remind you of that on days you just can’t seem to believe it. And remember I’m here to hold your hand and walk through this with you. And now the question . . . What do you say to yourself or what do you do to love yourself? I need help from all my Look for the good . . . peeps for tips on self-love. You can comment below or message me any number of ways – privately or publicly – on Instagram @lookforthegoodinc or @janewithahart or on Facebook on my Look for the good page (look for our special logo). I have to give a special shout out to @thejourney_world for this Instagram quote post which is a quote from one of my recent faves #mandyhale. Much Peace and Love Y’all!

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“You don’t always need a plan. Sometimes you just need to breathe, trust, let go and see what happens.” Mandy Hale

Y’all KNOW this is challenging for me. I am organized. I am a planner. I run 100 miles an hour with my ADHD. And trust . . . ha, ha TRUST has become an ugly word to me. I am taking steps (remember the last blog post) to break this thought process of not trusting. Forty-two years and most of that has been without trust so it will definitely take a while. I suppose I do have time to see what happens.  

Remember I told you I was going to take you on a journey with me and I have no idea where it is going or what it is going to look like. Well, that truth still remains. For the moment it is less of a roller coaster and more of a Jeep ride with no doors on a winding, mountain road. I have been praying more recently than I have in a while. I became reckless after “figuratively” collapsing under all the weight on my shoulders. I say to myself and out loud every day “Thank you, Lord, for saving me! You saved me!” and He really did. You have no idea! I also remind you and myself to let us stop judging each other and instead support each other. ‘Ya know that’s not always easy to do especially if we don’t agree with the topic at hand. However, if we truly love those we say we do then we support them as they ask and need. I continue to ask that of you for me and my family.

For today, here is the good . . . I am strong. You are strong. We are stronger than we think. Even if you are a planner and your personality tends to be more like mine . . . I am telling you to breathe. I am telling you to try and find trust. I am telling you to let go and yes, see what happens. I encourage you to find those people in your life who will positively support you wherever you are in your journey and I hope you will do that for them as well. Much Peace and Love Y’all!

Onward with my and YOUR journey to PEACE and HAPPINESS . . .

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Lisa – Girl Gang Member

Courageous. Giving. Strong. I mean yeah, she is a runner and works out but that is NOT what I mean when I use this word to describe one of my best friends. Try these definitions – of great moral courage; powerful in means of prevailing; decisively unyielding. Now to break those down . . .

She has been tested on numerous occasions on how she should handle her life with a blended family but like I said – she is decisively unyielding when it comes to what is best and benefits her family as a whole. It isn’t a competition to win but a journey that continues and she always prevails. (Whether she knows it or not) She will not waver on what is best for her children. She is courageous. It isn’t always easy to be the mother to children who are not biologically yours, but Lisa holds her head high and presses on making sure her family is always taken care of. And then there is giving. Most importantly, she gives with her heart. She also gives with her time making sure all three of her children know she is present and there for them at all times, as well as for her husband. She gives in so many other ways not just to her own family but to me as a friend, even to strangers. She is the founder of Their mission is – to progress society’s awareness to the value of nonbiological parents in a blended family through improved rights and increased responsibilities, participation and empowerment, with the understanding that mindfully and intentionally uniting families in this way will strengthen the marriage, and thereby the children.

My list of behind the scenes details of what she has endured, let go of, and fought for would blow your mind but for today here is the good . . . I am BLESSED to call her my friend, my sister and to have her be part of my inner circle – my Girl Gang. I love you, Lisa! Much Peace and Love Y’all! I hope you enjoy the rest of your weekend.

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And the announcement is . . .

It’s official! I am now a real author! My very first book, My Summer with Jimmy & Nan Dee, has now been published!!!

We all have dreams – don’t we? Or maybe we once did but forgot about them or simply think “it’s too late”. Well, I employ you DON’T GIVE UP! I have had many difficulties in my life. I have wanted to quit. But the Lord isn’t done with me so He somehow keeps me going. I keep getting back up. And look at me now! One of my actual life dreams has come true! I wanted to be a writer – so I did it. I wanted to write a whole freakin’ book! AND I DID IT! You can make one of your dreams come true too!

So, about My Summer with Jimmy & Nan Dee – it is a quick read that may make you laugh and cry. It will encourage you to take your own journey at your own speed. You don’t have to be anyone but you!

I will be having a book signing event in a few weeks after school gets back in session. I would much rather see you in person though. I love meeting new people and catching up with old friends. I am also available to meet you locally to skip shipping costs. However, if you don’t want to wait a few weeks my book is also available on as well. I can’t believe it! I’m on Amazon! That link will also be on the homepage here on our website shortly. So, for today here is the good . . . all the above! Much Peace and Love Y’all!

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The First Positive Purposeful Post of the New Year!

For those of you who may be new to my blog here is the explanation of today’s and future posts that will be named “Positive Purposeful Post“. The founding belief of this company is to bring you inspiring positivity one breath at a time. All of our products are a reflection of this very idea. For example, our LFTG (Look For The Good) Jars are filled with inspirational sayings/quotes. Each saying/quote has a crack ‘n peel backing so if you want to you can stick it on something for a positive reminder or simply throw it back in for a random draw another day. GO TO OUR STORE AND BUY ONE FOR YOURSELF OR SOMEONE YOU KNOW! YOU WON’T REGRET IT! So, having said that, periodically I will be doing my own random draw out of my personal LFTG jar and will be posting it on here with a story that emulates that message. Let’s do the first one for the new year now . . .

If your compassion does not include yourself, it is incomplete.” Buddha

Well, I want to be sure everyone knows what compassion means so I looked it up. Yes, I am a word girl. I love words! And yes, I know what compassion means but here it is for all to be sure – compassion – a feeling of deep sympathy and sorrow for another who is stricken by misfortune, accompanied by a strong desire to alleviate the suffering.

So, how am I to have compassion for myself? I can’t stand selfish people! Let me say it again – I can’t stand selfish people! Don’t get me wrong I am no saint, far from it and I do believe we all have a wee bit of selfishness in us but overall, no, I am not selfish. It honestly blows my mind how people think of themselves first and constantly. I am talking about adults here. Babies, children, and teens do this naturally and we have to teach (or try to teach) them to look around and think of other people. How can we help others? How can we love others? Please see beyond your own little circle.  Sure, my life is different than most people’s life. My oldest daughter always depends on me. She always has and always will. She will never live on her on. She doesn’t even leave the house without us. This isn’t for you to feel sorry for us. The quote I pulled out of my very own LFTG jar today actually makes me question myself. Since I can’t stand selfishness and really don’t have the option to be selfish – then how can I have compassion for myself. Isn’t that selfish I ask? Yes, I do feel a deep sorrow for us and TOTALLY sympathize with other people in situations with special needs. But how do I alleviate the suffering for myself? As 2016 was coming to a close, and you well know it was pure hell (see previous post), I decided I was going to be making some changes. I don’t know that I want to call them resolutions for 2017 because no one takes those seriously anymore. However, I am very serious about my intentions for 2017. The very first thing 1. Thank the Lord EVERY DAY for something! 2. Take care of myself! I usually don’t take care of myself. I put EVERYONE else before me EVERY SINGLE DAY! Now when I say take care of myself I don’t mean it’s all about me but I do mean take care of this mind, body, and spirit He has given me. I will do my best to do the usual – eat better, exercise, blah, blah, blah. Most importantly though is nurturing my spirit. I will say ‘NO’ to things that are not good for me and/or my family because I am learning self-respect. I do not have time for drama or things that are not truly important in life.

So, in closing here how can you have deep sympathy and sorrow for yourself but not stopping there – finish the definition of compassion. How can you alleviate your suffering? This isn’t a pass to be angry and yell at people. This is to remind you to be respectful of the ‘you’ that God made! For today, here is the good . . . I am going to continue to love with all I have including loving this Jane that God made. I will continue to have compassion and work hard to fight for rights of those who can’t. I am not in a race. I am on a journey. Much Peace and Love Y’all!

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Positive Purposeful Post

In order to succeed we must first believe that we can. Nikos Kazantzakis

Absolutely! How many times have I thought to myself – I can’t do this. I don’t understand what ‘that’ means. I don’t know what to do with ‘this’. Therefore, I just want to give up. But if we give up then that is a dream that may never be realized. I am still learning to stop, look up and listen every day. This is difficult for me because I am a planner and it is hard for me to sit still. For example, with this exciting journey of starting my own business there are definite obstacles. Most of them come in the form of technology. I swear I think little – no BIG – computerized robots on PLANET I’M SMARTER THAN YOU get together every morning before I get out of bed and come up with ways to melt my brain. I had a plan in my head of how I thought this should go and don’t you know it keeps changing. Just when I think Look for the good . . . is going to be one way a door closes in my face. I have received a message saying there was not a use for what I am selling right now. I received an e-mail letting me know my content was not rich and meaningful enough to serve targeted users. I may have been told the content of my writing isn’t going to bring the masses tons of products to try but for today here is the good . . . I absolutely believe deep in my heart I was created for something far more significant than I could ever imagine. I believe having a fighting spirit and a big mouth can bring about good things and many changes. So don’t give up. Don’t be afraid to stand still and listen. Believe in yourself. You, my friends, were created for a purpose. Peace and Love Y’all