For those of you who may be new to my blog here is the explanation of today’s and future posts that will be named “Positive Purposeful Post“. The founding belief of this company is to bring you inspiring positivity one breath at a time. All of our products are a reflection of this very idea. For example, our LFTG (Look For The Good) Jars are filled with inspirational sayings/quotes. Each saying/quote has a crack ‘n peel backing so if you want to you can stick it on something for a positive reminder or simply throw it back in for a random draw another day. GO TO OUR STORE AND BUY ONE FOR YOURSELF OR SOMEONE YOU KNOW! YOU WON’T REGRET IT! So, having said that, periodically I will be doing my own random draw out of my personal LFTG jar and will be posting it on here with a story that emulates that message. Let’s do the first one for the new year now . . .
“If your compassion does not include yourself, it is incomplete.” Buddha
Well, I want to be sure everyone knows what compassion means so I looked it up. Yes, I am a word girl. I love words! And yes, I know what compassion means but here it is for all to be sure – compassion – a feeling of deep sympathy and sorrow for another who is stricken by misfortune, accompanied by a strong desire to alleviate the suffering.
So, how am I to have compassion for myself? I can’t stand selfish people! Let me say it again – I can’t stand selfish people! Don’t get me wrong I am no saint, far from it and I do believe we all have a wee bit of selfishness in us but overall, no, I am not selfish. It honestly blows my mind how people think of themselves first and constantly. I am talking about adults here. Babies, children, and teens do this naturally and we have to teach (or try to teach) them to look around and think of other people. How can we help others? How can we love others? Please see beyond your own little circle. Sure, my life is different than most people’s life. My oldest daughter always depends on me. She always has and always will. She will never live on her on. She doesn’t even leave the house without us. This isn’t for you to feel sorry for us. The quote I pulled out of my very own LFTG jar today actually makes me question myself. Since I can’t stand selfishness and really don’t have the option to be selfish – then how can I have compassion for myself. Isn’t that selfish I ask? Yes, I do feel a deep sorrow for us and TOTALLY sympathize with other people in situations with special needs. But how do I alleviate the suffering for myself? As 2016 was coming to a close, and you well know it was pure hell (see previous post), I decided I was going to be making some changes. I don’t know that I want to call them resolutions for 2017 because no one takes those seriously anymore. However, I am very serious about my intentions for 2017. The very first thing 1. Thank the Lord EVERY DAY for something! 2. Take care of myself! I usually don’t take care of myself. I put EVERYONE else before me EVERY SINGLE DAY! Now when I say take care of myself I don’t mean it’s all about me but I do mean take care of this mind, body, and spirit He has given me. I will do my best to do the usual – eat better, exercise, blah, blah, blah. Most importantly though is nurturing my spirit. I will say ‘NO’ to things that are not good for me and/or my family because I am learning self-respect. I do not have time for drama or things that are not truly important in life.
So, in closing here how can you have deep sympathy and sorrow for yourself but not stopping there – finish the definition of compassion. How can you alleviate your suffering? This isn’t a pass to be angry and yell at people. This is to remind you to be respectful of the ‘you’ that God made! For today, here is the good . . . I am going to continue to love with all I have including loving this Jane that God made. I will continue to have compassion and work hard to fight for rights of those who can’t. I am not in a race. I am on a journey. Much Peace and Love Y’all!