If you haven’t been receiving the e-mail notifications when a new blog post has been published – I apologize. I may love to write but the technology part is not my friend ;-} I encourage you to look back at “It’s February!”, “Dava – Girl Gang Member”, “Sharron – Girl Gang Member”, “Lisa – Girl Gang Member”, “Bridget – Girl Gang Member” and “Ashlea – Girl Gang Member”. And remember to always “Look for the good . . . “
This is my final Girl Gang Member post about my best friends. So, lastly, but only in writing this blogpost, and certainly not least in any way whatsoever, here is my Ashlea. Oh, wow! Where to begin with this one? We met when her oldest and my youngest daughters were in 4 year old kindergarten together and we haven’t missed a beat since. She is . . . Fierce – furiously eager or intense. She can flash those piercing eyes in your direction, head cocked to the side with a slight smile dancing in the corner of her mouth. You can’t help but want to know what she is thinking and then you must go do it with her! It’s always an adventure. Brave – possessing or exhibiting courage or courageous endurance. Hmm . . . this badass BFF of mine has been through mud pits, sprayed in the face with venom, and hung out to dry in the middle of a desert. But NO MATTER WHAT – she always comes out the other side of whatever it is still with that “pretty girl swag”. (go look that definition up) Vivacious – lively; animated; spirited. We were once known as the Dynamic Duo. She is my partner in crime. She is wild, fun and up for just about anything. What haven’t we shared? She is a survivor. Just like me, she has been through more shit than you would find in a pasture of a million cows that were all just given enemas. How’s that for a visual? We’ll be in our eighties and still crazy – TOGETHER! She would probably describe herself as this “Flawed and fabulous because perfect doesn’t exist and normal is boring.” And this is just one of the many reasons I LOVE ME SOME ASHLEA GRAVES!!! We ain’t afraid to get our hands dirty in this crazy thing called life! So, for today here is the good . . . I am BLESSED to call her my friend, my sister and to have her be part of my inner circle – my Girl Gang. I love you, Ashlea! Much Peace and Love Y’all! I hope y’all have a great weekend. PS – yes this is an old pic below. Most of our pics I can’t show to the public! (wink, wink)
Considerate, good-natured and humble. It’s hard to even remember when we met exactly because I don’t like to remember time when she wasn’t a part of my life. I suppose it has been close to 14 years. Maybe? Seems like forever. I met her husband when Grayson was a baby and a few years later our families ended up living in the same neighborhood. We have shared ridiculousness through our dress up parties, lots of food at numerous home gatherings, and more wine and beer than anyone cares to admit. Together we have experienced the highest highs and lowest lows and supported each other through them. Bridg and I can be quite opposite and yet oh so the same. We definitely balance out our personalities.
This is not only how I see her but how she truly is . . . Considerate– showing regard for another’s feelings, circumstances, etc. I can’t tell you how many times I have quite literally leaned on her shoulders and cried. She genuinely cares for other people and she listens. While she is always considerate of my feelings she is not afraid to tell me the other side. I am thankful to have a friend who can be honest with me even if it may not be what I want to hear. That is hard to come by. THANKFUL! Good-natured – having or showing a pleasant, kindly disposition. Even though Bridget’s personality is more on the introverted side she never comes off as snobby or stuck up. She has a warm smile on her face and makes others feel comfortable. She doesn’t believe in rocking the boat. She is my calm in a lot of storms. Humble – not proud or arrogant. This one jumps out like a flashing, strobe light. Bridget is the definition of this! She doesn’t care about the material things in life. She doesn’t feel like she is better than anyone, yet she knows her self-worth. Bridget is the sugar to my spice! So, for today here is the good . . . I am BLESSED to call her my friend, my sister and to have her be part of my inner circle – my Girl Gang. I love you, Bridg! Much Peace and Love Y’all! I hope you enjoy the rest of your weekend.
Courageous. Giving. Strong. I mean yeah, she is a runner and works out but that is NOT what I mean when I use this word to describe one of my best friends. Try these definitions – of great moral courage; powerful in means of prevailing; decisively unyielding. Now to break those down . . .
She has been tested on numerous occasions on how she should handle her life with a blended family but like I said – she is decisively unyielding when it comes to what is best and benefits her family as a whole. It isn’t a competition to win but a journey that continues and she always prevails. (Whether she knows it or not) She will not waver on what is best for her children. She is courageous. It isn’t always easy to be the mother to children who are not biologically yours, but Lisa holds her head high and presses on making sure her family is always taken care of. And then there is giving. Most importantly, she gives with her heart. She also gives with her time making sure all three of her children know she is present and there for them at all times, as well as for her husband. She gives in so many other ways not just to her own family but to me as a friend, even to strangers. She is the founder of www.wearefamilies.org Their mission is – to progress society’s awareness to the value of nonbiological parents in a blended family through improved rights and increased responsibilities, participation and empowerment, with the understanding that mindfully and intentionally uniting families in this way will strengthen the marriage, and thereby the children.
My list of behind the scenes details of what she has endured, let go of, and fought for would blow your mind but for today here is the good . . . I am BLESSED to call her my friend, my sister and to have her be part of my inner circle – my Girl Gang. I love you, Lisa! Much Peace and Love Y’all! I hope you enjoy the rest of your weekend.
Sweet yet sassy and all things Southern! She and I first met years ago at church. We were attending a small group for parents of children with special needs. She will tell you she knew she was gonna love me from her first impression of me based on the introduction of myself. I announced to the church group – of all people – “Hey, y’all, my name is Jane Hart and I do love Jesus, but I also like to cuss”. So, there you have it. Two peas in a pod. It never matters how long (or short) it’s been since we have seen each other because we always instantly carry on. We laugh and cry. She understands from deep in her soul and by living it herself why my heart is broken a little every day. We are not just mamas. We are mamas of children (my now adult one) with special needs. Our girls have nowhere near the same disability but the pain we experience is the same. We also know what it’s like to fight for our children every day. EVERY DAY! So, for today here is the good . . . I am BLESSED to call her my friend, my sister and to have her be part of my inner circle – my Girl Gang. Did I mention how beautiful and always put together she is? She is bold and courageous giving all she has to her family and friends. I am thankful. I love you, Dava! Much Peace and Love Y’all! Have a great weekend.