This is my final Girl Gang Member post about my best friends. So, lastly, but only in writing this blogpost, and certainly not least in any way whatsoever, here is my Ashlea. Oh, wow! Where to begin with this one? We met when her oldest and my youngest daughters were in 4 year old kindergarten together and we haven’t missed a beat since. She is . . . Fierce – furiously eager or intense. She can flash those piercing eyes in your direction, head cocked to the side with a slight smile dancing in the corner of her mouth. You can’t help but want to know what she is thinking and then you must go do it with her! It’s always an adventure. Brave – possessing or exhibiting courage or courageous endurance. Hmm . . . this badass BFF of mine has been through mud pits, sprayed in the face with venom, and hung out to dry in the middle of a desert. But NO MATTER WHAT – she always comes out the other side of whatever it is still with that “pretty girl swag”. (go look that definition up) Vivacious – lively; animated; spirited. We were once known as the Dynamic Duo. She is my partner in crime. She is wild, fun and up for just about anything. What haven’t we shared? She is a survivor. Just like me, she has been through more shit than you would find in a pasture of a million cows that were all just given enemas. How’s that for a visual? We’ll be in our eighties and still crazy – TOGETHER! She would probably describe herself as this “Flawed and fabulous because perfect doesn’t exist and normal is boring.” And this is just one of the many reasons I LOVE ME SOME ASHLEA GRAVES!!! We ain’t afraid to get our hands dirty in this crazy thing called life! So, for today here is the good . . . I am BLESSED to call her my friend, my sister and to have her be part of my inner circle – my Girl Gang. I love you, Ashlea! Much Peace and Love Y’all! I hope y’all have a great weekend. PS – yes this is an old pic below. Most of our pics I can’t show to the public! (wink, wink)
Courageous. Giving. Strong. I mean yeah, she is a runner and works out but that is NOT what I mean when I use this word to describe one of my best friends. Try these definitions – of great moral courage; powerful in means of prevailing; decisively unyielding. Now to break those down . . .
She has been tested on numerous occasions on how she should handle her life with a blended family but like I said – she is decisively unyielding when it comes to what is best and benefits her family as a whole. It isn’t a competition to win but a journey that continues and she always prevails. (Whether she knows it or not) She will not waver on what is best for her children. She is courageous. It isn’t always easy to be the mother to children who are not biologically yours, but Lisa holds her head high and presses on making sure her family is always taken care of. And then there is giving. Most importantly, she gives with her heart. She also gives with her time making sure all three of her children know she is present and there for them at all times, as well as for her husband. She gives in so many other ways not just to her own family but to me as a friend, even to strangers. She is the founder of www.wearefamilies.org Their mission is – to progress society’s awareness to the value of nonbiological parents in a blended family through improved rights and increased responsibilities, participation and empowerment, with the understanding that mindfully and intentionally uniting families in this way will strengthen the marriage, and thereby the children.
My list of behind the scenes details of what she has endured, let go of, and fought for would blow your mind but for today here is the good . . . I am BLESSED to call her my friend, my sister and to have her be part of my inner circle – my Girl Gang. I love you, Lisa! Much Peace and Love Y’all! I hope you enjoy the rest of your weekend.
Sweet yet sassy and all things Southern! She and I first met years ago at church. We were attending a small group for parents of children with special needs. She will tell you she knew she was gonna love me from her first impression of me based on the introduction of myself. I announced to the church group – of all people – “Hey, y’all, my name is Jane Hart and I do love Jesus, but I also like to cuss”. So, there you have it. Two peas in a pod. It never matters how long (or short) it’s been since we have seen each other because we always instantly carry on. We laugh and cry. She understands from deep in her soul and by living it herself why my heart is broken a little every day. We are not just mamas. We are mamas of children (my now adult one) with special needs. Our girls have nowhere near the same disability but the pain we experience is the same. We also know what it’s like to fight for our children every day. EVERY DAY! So, for today here is the good . . . I am BLESSED to call her my friend, my sister and to have her be part of my inner circle – my Girl Gang. Did I mention how beautiful and always put together she is? She is bold and courageous giving all she has to her family and friends. I am thankful. I love you, Dava! Much Peace and Love Y’all! Have a great weekend.
Ahh, February – the month of love. However, I want love year ‘round. All kinds of love! Today I am going to express my gratefulness to my tribe, my people, my girl gang. I want to take time to shout out to them how much I love them, appreciate them and need them. The next several posts are going to address each one of them individually. I refer to them in the acknowledgements of my first book as “my little circle of girlfriends who are strong, fierce, and aren’t afraid to get their hands dirty in this thing we call life.” Each one of them is different from the other and even from me but I share a common thread with them as well. Each is strong and fierce and doing something to make this world a better place. Don’t get me wrong I have other friends who are wonderful, but this blog post is just about MY CIRCLE. For today, here is the good . . . I don’t consider it luck but instead a blessing to have these 5 ladies be such an important part of my life. Cheers to you (in alphabetical order of last names because you are all equally important to me) DB, AG, BO, LP, SP! I ask you Look for the good . . . family and friends – who are your people? Who makes you laugh until you snort? Who let’s you cry on them with your snotty nose and salty tears? Who listens to your same freakin’ story so many times it can be exhausting yet they let you continue to do it? Who are you blessed with? Be sure to let them know how awesome they are ASAP. Much Peace and Love Y’all!
“When it rains, look for rainbows. When it’s dark, look for stars.”
But what if you’re in a dank, tenebrous cave? How can you even see rainbows or stars? It isn’t possible. What if all you see is darkness? What do you do?
You wait. I know most of us don’t like that word. Especially if the wait seems endless. I feel like I am in a war of sorts. It is the never-ending war with numerous battles to be fought on what seems to be a daily basis. I feel like bombs are being dropped on me and they don’t just explode and it’s over. The impact has a domino effect. It’s like skipping a rock on top of water and watching the ripples go on and on – that is until another rock is thrown. Then I start all over with the chaos.
What are we supposed to do while we are waiting? Well, for one, I pray. I am trying to find my way back closer to The Lord now. Sometimes things are beyond stressful in my life and I can’t see Him. I can’t hear Him. Sometimes it feels like He is nowhere to be found. I know deep down that isn’t true but it’s how I feel.
So, I had a little convo with The Lord the other day. No, seriously, y’all, I did. I told Him I needed some good . . . Of course, in all honesty I think He must be somewhat amused with my ridiculousness – me thinking I can tell Him what to do. But guess what . . .
He really did answer my prayer. For today, here is the good . . . I heard back from Barnes & Noble (of all places – Barnes & Freakin’ Noble! They are huge!) that they are going to have a book signing event for me. What? What? I am so blessed, and this couldn’t have come at a better time. I wanted this to happen weeks and weeks ago, but it never did. Now I sit and think “Yes, Lord, it’s all in YOUR timing, not mine”. This works out better because of the upcoming holiday season and I have more time now to prepare. I am beyond excited to announce Barnes & Noble book signing event for my very first book, My Summer with Jimmy & Nan Dee! Details to come in the next few days. All I can say is don’t give up. Maybe it takes me telling you that or someone else. My amazing neighbor/friend/mother figure, Nancy, told me that very thing. She said just when you feel like you can’t take anymore then something wonderful happens. And trust me – it does! All glory be to God – for real! Keep putting one foot in front of the other. Have a fabulous weekend! Much Peace and Love Y’all!
I am determined to make this summer better than last which should take hardly any effort one would think since last summer was mostly lived in a place of stupidity, laziness, and selfishness from people I chose to spend time with. Not again! You live and learn. This is how we start the first day of our summer break – with a 6 a.m. walk/jog with my beautiful daughter, Kloie, then a protein shake and survivor’s coffee. Next, a special breakfast of love muffins for my other amazing daughter, Grayson. We are going to have the best summer yet! So, for today here is the good . . . I will be present in the moment. I will remind myself of how blessed I actually am. I will do things that help me relax. I will be at peace and help others to do the same. Much Peace and Love Y’all!
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“It’s hard when you miss people. But, you know, if you miss them it means you were lucky. It means you had someone special in your life, someone worth missing.” Nathan Scott
I have had way too many people I know die in my lifetime and most of them have been in the last few years but some in the last month! I don’t get it. I don’t suppose we are meant to get it. We are human ‘ya know. While this quote doesn’t necessarily have to do with death, and it may speak something else to you, it makes me think of people going to Heaven. I am sure this is because of the numerous people I have known to pass on.
I attended yet another funeral this past Sunday. It was for an “adult”, lady friend of mine. I say “adult” because even though I am one she was older and that’s just my funny way of describing my “more experienced, more seasoned” friends. She lived on the street I grew up on, I played with her kids, and swam in her pool. These were some of my childhood memories. However, when I was a teenager, almost an adult, I went through a very distressing situation. She had experienced the flipside of what I was enduring and shared her heart with me to try and help me see the good . . .
I hadn’t seen her very much in years but we got back in touch through Facebook. Then, as The Lord always works in His mysterious ways, I was fortunate enough to meet her for lunch on January 30th, 2017. We met for a specific reason. Due to the trauma I experienced in my teen years and early twenties, I have blocked much of my past – at least the details. She was one who held some missing pieces to my complex puzzle. Only God could have known she was not going to be here for me to talk to again. He worked it out. For today, here is the good . . . I, not was, but am lucky to have known her. Lucky to have her be an important piece of my history. Lucky to have someone that special in my life. Just blessed. Much Peace and Love Y’all!